Ever since the day that I was “Late to Rise” and got a spanking from DH, he has not spanked me again. I’ve told him how much I loved the “discipline” spanking he gave me, I’ve told him how much it turns me on when he spanks me, and I’ve even asked for spankings–both “good girl” spanks and discipline spanks. All to no avail. DH did give me some playful spanks in the kitchen this morning while the kids were elsewhere, but nowhere near what I’m wanting.
I asked him today why he has avoided spanking me the last several days, even during intimacy. I asked him if he was freaked out. He said, no, but he didn’t give me a reason for his unwillingness. He did say that he didn’t want to do it this afternoon because he was afraid the kids might hear. (We have a very small house, and they weren’t asleep for nap yet, so he had a point on that one.)
I don’t know. Maybe I just need to lay off and let him be about it. (I really haven’t brought it up more than a couple times, although this post sounds like I have.) Maybe he’ll come around in his own time. It stinks, though, because nothing turns me on quite like a good girl spanking!
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29 Sunday Mar 2015
Classical Marriage in a Modern World 
SK also will not when kids are around. So it’s tough when you have little ones to do anything noisy. Like you, I get it. You may have to help him get creative– some put on music; go to a noise reducing closet, even the garage (depending on your neighbor situation!), after kids are off to school. Still, SK is very self conscious. Empty nest has been our saving grace. I wish we had instituted a rule of “do not disturb daddy and mommy when we’re “listening to music with the door closed.”
And, well, it would be very normal for him to be a little freaked out in the beginning. Honorable men grew up learning it was wrong to hit women. Give him time to wrap his head around it. I’m typing on a kindle now but will get back later on thoughts of discipline vs funishments,and how this can be tough to broker for some husbands.
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Sir hasn’t really grasped my need for correction either… I don’t know why and I think I’m struggling to submit to him a little now as a result. I’ve had doubts about D/s because of this now too but in all honesty our relationship is better, we’re communicating better, and the sex is better and more often… I think it’s just a speedbump in a long journey.
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Hello, Sweets, thanks for dropping by! I find it frustrating that I can’t seem to communicate to DH how much I desire his dominance in the area of discipline. I too hope that this is more of a speed bump than an insurmountable precipice in our D/s journey.
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Totally relate! It’s hard to get enough spanks, especially when you have kids around and busy lives!
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You can say that again! 🙂 Thanks for coming by!
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